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“First Love” By Alisha & Whitni [HQ]

How many times have you heard that? I am sure too much to even count, and It’s probably one of the biggest relationship killers in the world.

No, not taking out the garbage, but the internal score we keep in our relationship.

What you talking about Author?

Well, it’s like this. When we’re in a relationship, because we are pitifully flawed human beings, we have this internal score board that constantly displays the winnings our partner has doped over us.

And if you’re already dragged into the ring; even if you don’t want to put up a fight, you’ll find it impossible to not get back at your partner for always wanting things his way around you.

And who says we’re keeping score? There isn’t any referee around or official rule book to a relationship boxing match, but I assure you that if you don’t put your D’s up, you’ll get knocked out.

Here’s how scores are tallied, for instance taking out the garbage may rank as 2 points while visiting the in-laws may rank as 7 points.

And if my calculations are right, and we have enough of these points on the giving end but barely enough on the receiving end, you can bet your bottom socks that resentment is going to creep into your relationship.

Pretty soon you’ll find yourself saying things like…

“I do all this for you and you hardly do anything for me!”

That’s when your partner begins to realize that you we’re always serious from the start. Now you’re hurt because you feel that you’re the only one giving your best to make this relationship work, and because you begin to see your partner as an absolute idiot.

And he’s crushed because you’re not talking to him because of his selfish nature, and in his mind that means no sex for couple of days. He’s apologizing, but he doesn’t really no why? and you’re both confused!

It’s just bad blood all the way around.

And the bigger problem is, the scoreboard never gets evened. Is this even a scoreboard at all, or a balancing act, yeah I’ll say its an attempt to balance the giving and taking in your relationship

So now your partner tries to overcompensate for his selfishness and the whole argument backfires, and now you’re feeling guilty, you never pay attention to small details, oh crap – Failure to deduct a clear cut compromise.

“Geesh, how can I be such a louse? What was going through my head?”

And when the guilt creeps in, that’s when MORE resentment follows.

“How dare you make me feel guilty for wanting some equity in our relationship.”

It’s a never ending cycle that usually culminates in a bad breakup.

Maybe you’re already there or have been there many times before. And a matter of fact, if you’re reading this, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Well, here’s the good news. If you’ve already screwed the pooch on this one, there IS a way that you can actually make amends with your ex.

Below you will find my review of a great book called “The Magic Of Making Up.”

You can read it here, The Magic of Making Up Review because keeping score should never occur in your relationship!

And I think you will find it most helpful.

The divorce rate is 50%. It’s been that way since the beginning of time.

You’d think, after a while, that we’d be able to do something to fix this problem.

Well, we can’t. And the reason is simple. It’s the fundamental flaw of people in general.

Let me explain…

One of the strongest basic instincts we have as human beings is that of survival. When push comes to shove, we are looking to keep ourselves alive,at all costs if it gets to that point.

I mean let’s be honest, few people want to die. I say few because of all the suicides we have.You’re probably wondering what this has to do with relationships and why it’s so hard for people to get along.

The answer is really simple. When your basic need is survival, that ultimately means one thing that is undeniable. You come first.

Oh sure, so many of us say that we would do anything for our loved one. But how many of us really mean it? Would we REALLY throw ourselves in front of a runaway train to save our wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend?

It’s easy to talk a good game, but when push comes to shove…my money is on that train taking out our partner instead of ourselves.

And while I know this is an extreme example, the sad part is…it carries over to every aspect of our lives. Sacrificing the movie we want to watch so that our spouse can watch what they want.

Taking that long trip to the mall even though the only thing you want to do is watch the football game. Going to the in laws for dinner even though you were really hoping to go to that concert tonight.

In our minds, it seems that we do more sacrificing for the one we love than we do for ourselves. And when you do the internal math, and it doesn’t add up anywhere close to our favor, that’s when we start to get resentful and start looking at our relationship as a chore rather than something we really enjoy.

It’s called human nature, which is why ALL relationships take work. Maybe you’ve already tossed one relationship to the curb that you regret doing.

If that’s the case, there is a great book called “Magic Of Making Up” that can really help you get back with your ex. Besides, what do you really have to lose… you can get your ex back if you take action right now!