Hey honey, it’s YOUR turn to take out the garbage.”

How many times have you heard that? I am sure too much to even count, and It’s probably one of the biggest relationship killers in the world.

No, not taking out the garbage, but the internal score we keep in our relationship.

What you talking about Author?

Well, it’s like this. When we’re in a relationship, because we are pitifully flawed human beings, we have this internal score board that constantly displays the winnings our partner has doped over us.

And if you’re already dragged into the ring; even if you don’t want to put up a fight, you’ll find it impossible to not get back at your partner for always wanting things his way around you.

And who says we’re keeping score? There isn’t any referee around or official rule book to a relationship boxing match, but I assure you that if you don’t put your D’s up, you’ll get knocked out.

Here’s how scores are tallied, for instance taking out the garbage may rank as 2 points while visiting the in-laws may rank as 7 points.

And if my calculations are right, and we have enough of these points on the giving end but barely enough on the receiving end, you can bet your bottom socks that resentment is going to creep into your relationship.

Pretty soon you’ll find yourself saying things like…

“I do all this for you and you hardly do anything for me!”

That’s when your partner begins to realize that you we’re always serious from the start. Now you’re hurt because you feel that you’re the only one giving your best to make this relationship work, and because you begin to see your partner as an absolute idiot.

And he’s crushed because you’re not talking to him because of his selfish nature, and in his mind that means no sex for couple of days. He’s apologizing, but he doesn’t really no why? and you’re both confused!

It’s just bad blood all the way around.

And the bigger problem is, the scoreboard never gets evened. Is this even a scoreboard at all, or a balancing act, yeah I’ll say its an attempt to balance the giving and taking in your relationship

So now your partner tries to overcompensate for his selfishness and the whole argument backfires, and now you’re feeling guilty, you never pay attention to small details, oh crap – Failure to deduct a clear cut compromise.

“Geesh, how can I be such a louse? What was going through my head?”

And when the guilt creeps in, that’s when MORE resentment follows.

“How dare you make me feel guilty for wanting some equity in our relationship.”

It’s a never ending cycle that usually culminates in a bad breakup.

Maybe you’re already there or have been there many times before. And a matter of fact, if you’re reading this, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Well, here’s the good news. If you’ve already screwed the pooch on this one, there IS a way that you can actually make amends with your ex.

Below you will find my review of a great book called “The Magic Of Making Up.”

You can read it here, The Magic of Making Up Review because keeping score should never occur in your relationship!

And I think you will find it most helpful.